People Do Grow Up and Change.
As the blog owner at in the link above refuses to release my comment I am going to link the whole thing here and add my my comment on my own blog 🙂
my symathies are with the OP in this case. Having been in a similar position I would not want to attend their wedding either. I think the OP is doing enough of putting it in the past by saying that she knows that she will bump into her as she will be part of the extended family and will remain polite.
Clearly Lisa has not learned that not accepting no, acceptance of persona boundaries and using emotional blackmail including enlisting the whole family is also a form of bullying and as such I doubt that she has learned her lessons. Yes it would have been better to stick with the; “Sorry I have a prior engagement that day that I am unable to change.” but she did not. The happy couple do not have the right to state “we want the whole family there and thus the family MUST comply with our wishes no matter if they want to or not”. A complete disrespect for the choice and lives of others IMO
Appearantly I am not the only comment she did not approve of. According to her we missed the point as people do change and we have to give them a number oc chances. IMO the bully did not change and furthermore they did not accept a decline. It should never ever be compulsory to attend a wedding. The victim of bullying has moved on, but is perfectly within her rights to avoid having her boundaries beign trodden on, have a spine and decline an invitation. Come on now, according to the blog owner you are only over a bully if you forgive and forget and pretend everything is hunky dory and attend a wedding at the other side of the country. BS as far as I am concerned.
I am sorry but to forgive and forget also means forget that the person exists and not wanting to go back to the past. If they’ve changed fine, happy for them but that does not mean the OP should be forced to attend this wedding by being pushed around by her family. Insane IMO. The owner seems to have an issue with differing opinions. Something I have noticed before. Al ittle sad that I am posting this on my own website? Quite possibly but it annoyed me and I too have a blog and am completely free to post my opinion oposing that of the E-hell owner there.
Posted by Gilraen on 16/02/2014
Nigella Lawson cocaine use will be subject to police review after all | Life and style | theguardian.com.
It makes me angry really angry to see this. This is a woman publically attacked by her then husband. In the divorce he threatens to destroy her and bullies her to the witness stand. You know the man that is married to a great cook and prefer to eat burned toast. What a way to humiliate and spurn the one you claim to love.
She admits to some use of cocaine when her beloved husband is dying of cancer, a disease that took more loved ones. She also mentioned intimate terrorosm and needing to smake a joint with a life problem (marital problems).
SHE is now under investigation for cocaine use and HE is not for intimate terrirosm, bulliying and threatening behavious He threatened to destroy her. He seems to have the tools and money to at least try that and work the system. With this message he is making clear that this was not just a threat. I just hope that this piece Charles Saatchi was loser in court of public opinion | Art and design | The Guardian. wll remain true.
When are the powers that be going to look at the root cause? His controlling behaviour toward her and take things form there. But oh I forgot. He’s a man and a rich one with powerful connections to boot. Maybe we should change the proverb to Hell hath no fury but a perceived poweful controlling man scorned.
Nigella is staying dignified and strong. it seems. Still not a fan of her as a TV cook but she definately is going up in my inspirational women lists
Posted by Gilraen on 22/12/2013
Boots removes gender signs for toys | Money | The Guardian.
Some good news in that dreadful pinkification in toys BUT then this (last paragraph in the article
It said science toys were sold on the Boots website by gender, age and type “to make it as easy as possible for customers to find what they are looking for”.
Right so on the website it is still the main thing; men will become scientists, girls won’t. There is a possible catergory called gender neutral or put them in both for really easy navigation so more enlightened customers also can find what they are looking for
Posted by Gilraen on 01/05/2013