People Do Grow Up and Change

People Do Grow Up and Change.

As the blog owner at in the link above refuses to release my comment I am going to link the whole thing here and add my my comment on my own blog 🙂

my symathies are with the OP in this case. Having been in a similar position I would not want to attend their wedding either. I think the OP is doing enough of putting it in the past by saying that she knows that she will bump into her as she will be part of the extended family and will remain polite.

Clearly Lisa has not learned that not accepting no, acceptance of persona boundaries and using emotional blackmail including enlisting the whole family is also a form of bullying and as such I doubt that she has learned her lessons. Yes it would have been better to stick with the; “Sorry I have a prior engagement that day that I am unable to change.” but she did not. The happy couple do not have the right to state “we want the whole family there and thus the family MUST comply with our wishes no matter if they want to or not”. A complete disrespect for the choice and lives of others IMO

Appearantly I am not the only comment she did not approve of. According to her we missed the point as people do change and we have to give them a number oc chances. IMO the bully did not change and furthermore they did not accept a decline. It should never ever be compulsory to attend a wedding. The victim of bullying has moved on, but is perfectly within her rights to avoid having her boundaries beign trodden on, have a spine and decline an invitation. Come on now, according to the blog owner you are only over a bully if you forgive and forget and pretend everything is hunky dory and attend a wedding at the other side of the country. BS as far as I am concerned.

I am sorry but to forgive and forget also means forget that the person exists and not wanting to go back to the past. If they’ve changed fine, happy for them but that does not mean the OP should be forced to attend this wedding by being pushed around by her family. Insane IMO. The owner seems to have an issue with differing opinions. Something I have noticed before. Al ittle sad that I am posting this on my own website? Quite possibly but it annoyed me and I too have a blog and am completely  free to post my opinion oposing that of the E-hell owner there.

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