10 Reasons Feminism Might Not Be For You

Just found myself nodding at every reason. So decided to put it onto my own blog.
Well written and thought provoking. Looking in the mirror makes me again realise that I too sometimes still step into my white-middlelass-educated-woman traps that are so clearly written out here. I guess it is not wrong to fall into that trap sometimes, after all I am only human, but to realise that I have done it and learn form my mistake.

The Belle Jar

This post originally appeared on the blog The Outlier Collective. But since that blog is now defunct, and since people have been asking for this post, I’m republishing it here.

I’m typically a huge proponent of the idea that feminism is for everybody. Feminism is for ladies! It’s for men! It’s for individuals who don’t subscribe to the idea of a gender binary! Feminism is for teenagers and small children! In fact, I’m even pretty sure that at least one of my cats is a feminist, although the other one just prefers to think of herself as a cat-ist, because that’s less political. Regardless, I’m usually of the opinion that feminism, as a philosophy, can and should be embraced by everyone.

Lately, though, I’m not so sure. I’ve been seeing a lot of questionable behaviours and comments, many of them coming from purported feminists. I’m starting to wonder if some…

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Reeva Steenkamp and Oscar Pistorius: Not a question of fact, but perspective

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When women are killed, we remain just as dead as any man in similar circumstances. It cannot be argued that we have not really died, that the bullet that went through our skull didn’t really hurt us. Our death is an objective truth. It’s just the years leading up to it – all those experiences, thoughts and feelings – that can never quite be verified. For how does one know whether a life has validity unless it was lived by a man?

A man’s story belongs to him. He is more than “just the women”. As Judge Thokozile Masipa said of Oscar Pistorius, not guilty of murder despite firing four shots through a locked bathroom door, “the accused is the only person who can say what his state of mind was at the time he fired the shots that killed the deceased”. His experiences are inviolable. And…

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People Do Grow Up and Change

People Do Grow Up and Change.

As the blog owner at in the link above refuses to release my comment I am going to link the whole thing here and add my my comment on my own blog 🙂

my symathies are with the OP in this case. Having been in a similar position I would not want to attend their wedding either. I think the OP is doing enough of putting it in the past by saying that she knows that she will bump into her as she will be part of the extended family and will remain polite.

Clearly Lisa has not learned that not accepting no, acceptance of persona boundaries and using emotional blackmail including enlisting the whole family is also a form of bullying and as such I doubt that she has learned her lessons. Yes it would have been better to stick with the; “Sorry I have a prior engagement that day that I am unable to change.” but she did not. The happy couple do not have the right to state “we want the whole family there and thus the family MUST comply with our wishes no matter if they want to or not”. A complete disrespect for the choice and lives of others IMO

Appearantly I am not the only comment she did not approve of. According to her we missed the point as people do change and we have to give them a number oc chances. IMO the bully did not change and furthermore they did not accept a decline. It should never ever be compulsory to attend a wedding. The victim of bullying has moved on, but is perfectly within her rights to avoid having her boundaries beign trodden on, have a spine and decline an invitation. Come on now, according to the blog owner you are only over a bully if you forgive and forget and pretend everything is hunky dory and attend a wedding at the other side of the country. BS as far as I am concerned.

I am sorry but to forgive and forget also means forget that the person exists and not wanting to go back to the past. If they’ve changed fine, happy for them but that does not mean the OP should be forced to attend this wedding by being pushed around by her family. Insane IMO. The owner seems to have an issue with differing opinions. Something I have noticed before. Al ittle sad that I am posting this on my own website? Quite possibly but it annoyed me and I too have a blog and am completely  free to post my opinion oposing that of the E-hell owner there.

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Bridget Christie’s feminist quiz of 2013

Bridget Christie’s feminist quiz of 2013 | Life and style | The Guardian.

 

This one was fun to do eventhough it said I was probably a man. My two mistakes were just a notch too far ino pure Britishness.

International Women’s Day – Badass ladies from history!

International Women’s Day – Badass ladies from history! (with images, tweets) · greg_jenner · Storify.

 

Today the #inspiringwomen went binkers and it was so much fun to se the huge number of really inspiring women One of the most prolific was Greg Jenner and he storified it.

Myself I tweeted all my own heroes (ncluding the curie-joliot dynasty)  and all female science nobel prize winners. Loved doing it – Just exceeded my tweet limit for the hour 🙂

Twitter’s Tony Wang issues apology to abuse victims and it is still #twitterfail

BBC News – Twitter’s Tony Wang issues apology to abuse victims.

So they apologise and next month(!) there will be an abuse button.I guess better late than never They say the hear us which I doubt. They have seen their marketign research data that show brand damage. My thoughts are that this fact is what made them jump. Not the misogyny on line, nor the police investigations and arrests – 8 and 2 as far as I am aware.

In the mean time Mary Beard gets threats on bombs and rape. She had trouble with the way way over the top long abuse form. After all abuse is not a twitter thing and it takes  longer to report abuse than to sign up. I know I too have reported a bomb threat. It is a disgrace that form! Impossible to fill out on a smartphone. She is then told by the ‘helpful’ feedback loop that she filled it out wrong – so it is not clear either – and that is why the abuse form is not accepted.

Now you’d think that after all the upheaval of the last few days over all the threads that they’d help one of the core people in this saga and check her timeline and ensure the abuse goes through as reported. But no they don’t

You’d think by now they’d have somebody checking timelines of  the three top abuse receivers on a regular basis, or give them a designated report account or something but no – they STILL have to fill out that monstrously long, unclear and stupid abuse form every time.

Talk about #twitterfail

ETA: seems the people that rallied around Mary Beard and tweeted TwitterUK got through and she mentioend they are now very helpful. Just goes tos show what a little push form others can do

Rape Threats: It’s A Free Speech Issue

So well explained thanks

quiteirregular

Content note: this piece refers to misogynistic threats of violence

Recently the media has been full of stories about women in the public eye being subjected to sexist abuse online.  I’ve written in the past about the way women are singled out for vitriol which men simply do not have to face, and the tendency for the attacks to focus on their bodies rather than their ideas.  Just this week, Caroline Criado-Perez has spoken out about the way she was the target of a spate of hateful messages in the aftermath of her campaign to convince the Bank of England to keep a woman amongst the national luminaries pictured on banknotes.  Over the last year the academic Mary Beard, the critic Anita Sarkeezian and the journalist Helen Lewis have all faced appalling victimization simply for having opinions whilst being a woman.  And these are simply the most famous…

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On sports, sex and night-time makeup

I could not have said it any better. Thanks!

Sonsie's Basement

I’ve written previously about how people I consider to be well-judging, normal humans dismiss feminism because they believe women have already achieved equality. I’ve been reflecting on this, looking at the news and my own life over the last week, and you know what? I’m open to changing my mind, so let’s re-visit that viewpoint.

Starting with sport. With Wimbledon just behind us, we can reflect with satisfaction on the fact that female tennis players now receive the same prize money as men. And how lovely to see the congratulations pouring in to this year’s female Singles Winner, Marion Bartoli. My personal favourite from the plethora of good wishes comes from the delightful @Willshow95: “Bartoli you fat shit. I don’t want a ugly bitch to win”.

Hmmm. OK, moving on. Golf! Yesterday I received an invitation to Muirfield, a club hosting the 2013 Open Championship. This is arguably the biggest…

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Nina Turner, Ohio State Senator, Introduces Viagra Bill To Counter Anti-Contraception Legislation

Nina Turner, Ohio State Senator, Introduces Viagra Bill To Counter Anti-Contraception Legislation.

 

Wonderful way to fight back. It is at their own game And all of a sudden legislating male reproduction is silly? I don’t think so.

FBrape

I haven’t had time to comment on the FBrape campaign on my own website yet. Been busy on twitter and work FBrape is a wonderful campaign that also has left me with some things to ponder Mainly my earlier post on Dove

As much as I liked the Dove campaign then, their response (or lack thereof) to this open letter to facebook has left a very sour aftertaste in my mouth Dove were asked multiple times to take a stance for women, because of their women empowerment marketing. Yet they chose not to take that stance publicly other than saying shees yeah it is really bad. Maybe they did something the the background persuading facebook to answer, but they did not join the campaign. What a missed chance for them and really making me think that their girlsunstoppable and woman self assurance are more than just a marketing ploy to relieve me of my money.

I am not buying dove anymore, because I am not buying their campaign intention anymore. They lost me because to me it seems it was and is all about them money, not really about empowering women

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